With my few years on this earth, I have wine and dined with loneliness. Or rather, with the thought that I was lonely. I was not actually lonely, rather I felt that I was lonely.
To me, loneliness is a state of mind. Most people use the word "loneliness" without knowing how it relates to their situation. Loneliness is an ambiguous concept and one needs to understand what loneliness or being lonely means.
With my little experiences I would state perceived strategies on how to combat loneliness;

Understand what loneliness is
There's a difference between solitude and loneliness
Both mean a person is alone; however, the mindset is different. It's a typical feeling someone has when they believe the validation of others [and their company] is needed to feel worthy and at ease. Solitude is rooted in choice and peace. When someone revels in their solitude, they appreciate their connection to themselves first. They may enjoy time spent with others but don't need it.
Lonely people often have difficulty making meaningful connections.

Start with small steps

When you're feeling isolated, it may seem daunting to re-engage with others socially. Start by taking small steps.
If you feel isolated or disconnected, or you recently lost a loved one, you're not alone. Get out and about by going to a party, a social gathering or volunteering,
It's important to keep moving and take small steps toward engaging with others in whatever form works for you.
Meet People in Real Life
Looking at Facebook, WhatsApp and Instagram photos of the amazing vacations your friends are taking - or studying their social media updates on personal and professional successes - can promote feelings of loneliness.
It's counterintuitive, but increased use of social media may exaggerate feelings of loneliness . While social networks can offer real connections, remember that curated platforms often over-emphasize the success of others.
Instead of spending too much time reading about people in cyberspace, close your laptop, put down your phone and spend more time with people you know in real life. There's no substitute for face-to-face interaction.
Udo_Best writes.                                                  

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